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Quote of the Day

Posted on August 29, 2009 | Leave a comment

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless–it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.

–C.S Lewis

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Quote of the Day

Posted on August 24, 2009 | Leave a comment

“Unlike all the hollow substitutes, real love is about gaining, through sacrifice, the ability to see the world through another’s eyes.  It’s about learning to know another even as we are known.  It’s about triumphing over daily inconveniences and conflicts, not merely surviving them.  It’s all about emotionally growing together.  And it’s about participating in the redemption of another, even as we are being redeemed.  Such love touches and challenges every part of one’s life.  In summary, love is learning to respect, adore and cherish the other.  True love is always a life-transforming friendship, and such friendship has nothing to do with a constantly overpowering attraction.  The danger of hoping for such attraction is that it is impossible  to obtain–or to sustain for any length of time, no matter who you’re with…A strong component of the current myth concerning love is that the most challenging part of romance  is finding the ‘right’ person;  yet this is false.  The most challenging, and the most fulfilling, part of romance is learning how to love another selflessly over the long haul.  While such attraction is initially blissful and effervescent, it is like the tide, always ebbing and flowing, tempered by our histories, choices and frailties.”

–Greg Jesson, Faith, Film, and Philosophy: Big Ideas on the Big Screen

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What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas

Posted on August 11, 2009 | 2 Comments

Philosopher Greg Jesson on that little ditty:

Of course, this means only one thing: sex without the hindrance of friendship or future. It is ridiculous to claim that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, because choice and character are reciprocally related, and one’s character necessarily follows one home from Vegas–or from anywhere else.

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Seven Myths Single Women Believe

Posted on August 7, 2009 | 1 Comment

From, you guessed it, Boundless author Suzanne Hadley…I love Boundless. Good perspective for 20 and 30 somethings.

The list:

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Coyote County Loser Coming to the OC

Posted on August 6, 2009 | Leave a comment

If my post yesterday made you think (or even if it didn’t), go check out Coyote County Loser September 4-10 at Cinema City Theaters in Anaheim Hills, California.  Coyote County Loser is an independent film by Roebuck Media, and it fits in well with the themes I touched upon yesterday (see my own review of the film here.  Warning: spoilers contained!).

It is a delightful romantic comedy.  When I watched it, I really had to chuckle about the exchanges between the two main characters.  Several times, though their interactions were slightly exaggerated for effect (which is to be expected in a romantic comedy film, to a certain extent), there was more than a bit of truth therein about the battle of the sexes.  I was entertained and got to ponder a deep lesson about love at the same time.  I highly recommend it for anyone wanting to see a tastefully done film on love and relationships.

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A 5 ft 3 Mirror

Posted on August 5, 2009 | 2 Comments

Have you noticed I’ve been focusing on dating, marriage, and relationships in my last few posts? Well, my own wedding is coming up in a few days, so I have a legit excuse…:)

Plus, like nothing else, the subject of dating and marriage are two controversial subjects that tend to get the comments box hot and sizzlin’. A post on the moral argument for God’s existence will bring, perhaps, a comment or two (sorry Wintery Knight…just callin’ the shots like I see ‘em), but bring up the subject of dating and suddenly all the 20 somethings come out of the shadows with a thing or two to say.

Well, if my posts the last few days haven’t been controversial enough, there’s today’s post. I think it’s time to stir up the pot a ‘lil.

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Sparks

Posted on August 4, 2009 | 2 Comments

The conversation I referenced in yesterday’s post also had bits of “soul-mate-ism” in it.

Man alive, we younguns have such high standards for a mate these days! Well, let me qualify: for us, some things, like godliness, virtue, potential to be a great father/mother, love of God, commitment to Christ, spending habits, etc, are negotiable. If we meet a person that sufficiently sets off sparks in the gut, we can manage without all that. Afterall, missionary dating is all the rage! Perhaps your sweetie will grow a love for God as a result of dating you!

But there absolutely has to be this, this, this, ineffable quality about the person that just makes you come alive. When you meet this person, you just know. S/he completes you. S/he is “the one.” You can’t define it, but you know it when you….feel it. God made him/her just for you, and nothing could be more obvious.

Even if we don’t put it like that, that’s how many of us in my generation think, feel, and live.

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