Recently, Boundless blogger Suzanne Hadley Gosselin asked a few interesting questions. I’m gonna pose them here; who knows, could yield some interesting comments!
If you are a single guy, what do you wish the girls around you knew? If you are a single woman, what do you wish you could tell guys?
One request: be honest! No need to just parrot what you think makes you sound spiritual.
I wish that single women knew how to do apologetics. Not only is the most effective way of showing their willingness to do something hard that is effective for defending God, but it’s a good sign that she would be able to to do hard things that are good for me. I think the best question any man can ask a prospective mate is to ask her how much time and effort she has put into defending God in public in the most effective ways. That is how I test to see if a woman is able to hold up her end of a relationship by doing things that are challenging and difficult.
I agree that if they knew about apologetics that would be great. However, my perception of the question was that it was more about what single guys and girls might know about each other. I would like a single girl to know that she is valuable just the way she is.
I actually strongly disagree with that in one sense.
http://townhall.com/columnists/DennisPrager/2008/02/12/some_thoughts_on_love
My views are similar to C.S. Lewis’ views on love: love is tranformative. You want to take a good thing and make it better. This is a vital thing for women to know, but none that I know know it, and they interpret constructive criticism as a loack of love. They prefer love as blind acceptance with no plan for change, in my experience.
@ Wintery Knight: well put. I also think Lewis was pretty much spot on. To paraphrase Lewis from his book The Problem of Pain:
An author doesn’t attempt to publish his first draft manuscript (unless he’s a bad author); he will refine it, strip it, reshape it until the object of his love becomes a most wonderful, loveable work of art.