After reading my post on delaying marriage, some of you might be left wondering:
“How do you ‘get going’ without overdoing it?
This is a great question. I’m no expert, but I can mention a few things that I (and others) think is wise:
First, hang out in social circles where you will rub shoulders with co-eds who are serious about marriage. This species is shrinking in abundance in the church these days, but they are still around, so finding folks like this won’t be too hard.
Second, get an older couple that can help mentor you in your maturity as a whole, including preparing for marriage.
Third, guys, take chances. You don’t have to chase down every girl you see (such a habit will earn you a bad rep.), but really, put down the game console and grow up.
Girls, keep high standards on the things that matter (i.e., do not entertain advances from men who aren’t dedicated followers of Christ–this goes for Christian women.), but be willing to give guys a chance who perhaps doesn’t fit your every whim. If it’s not “love at first sight” and you don’t get butterflies in your stomach, so what? Even though he’s not your typical height and even though he doesn’t have the voice of Josh Groban, that doesn’t mean he’s not your “soul mate” (a “soul mate” is a dubious concept anyway).
Be open to God working in unexpected , non-Hollywood-movie ways.
And, perhaps most importantly, put away the “Jesus is the only man I need/I’m just fine being single” talk. Guys will hear this and take you seriously. Meaning: you will continue to endlessly complain that guys don’t ask you out.
What do you all think? Do you have any other suggestions? Which suggestion, if any, do you think is the best?
Be sure to check out the following related posts:
The Cost of Delaying Marriage
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